Clearly, moving from middle school to high school in the Fall is top-of-mind for my youngest.
My youngest was out in our living room pacing ever so slightly back and forth. “What’s up,” I asked. “Nothing,” he replied, and then he stopped walking and made a hmmm noise. “Well, actually…” he said, “I’m thinking about high school and what those changes will mean for me.” His facial expression was a mix of anticipation and fear. His older brother just went through enrollment for his classes, so it would make sense this was on his mind.
“Are you concerned about something?” I asked. “Well, maybe. I’m concerned it’s going to be a lot more. Classes. The teachers are going to be strict. There’s going to be more homework.” I could see he was stressed about the upcoming change (though it’s still months away). I thought for a minute before responding. “You’re right that change is coming, and I’ve yet to meet anyone that likes change, especially when it’s unclear what exactly the change will be. The good news is, while change isn’t easy, it’s something we all have to go through throughout life, and each time you show yourself you’re able to adapt and successfully make the change, the more confidence you have the next time round. You’ve already gone through some big changes—moving homes, moving from elementary to middle school, learning to navigate public transit and more. Yes, it will be different, but you should grow in your capabilities and feel good about it.”
He exhaled, lowered his shoulders, and smiled. “You’re right, I can do this. Thanks.” That ended the conversation.
We can, too often, look ahead and get anxious, worried, or concerned about the unknown. Change is hard, regardless the age — whether it’s planned or thrust upon you. It’s how you use the tools, including experience, you have to know you can get through whatever life throws at you next.
How do you handle change? How are you helping your child navigate it?
My youngest is now going to migrate to primary school from play group this April. She is oblivious to the change but Mom and Dad are busy worrying 😀
I can relate. When our boys went to grade school we went through fear of the unknown — will they fit in? Who will they be friends with? How will their teachers be? Who are the other parents? Will we (my husband and I) fit it? How’s our daily schedule going to change, etc.? Very normal. Know just like your daughter may worry (when she’s older?), about her first day in school, parents are worrying too. You are not alone. We worry, we figure out the unknown and continue on.