When was the first time you appreciated your parent or primary caregiver?
I adored my mother as a child. I thought she was the most beautiful, perfect person there was.
I resisted her as a teenager. I looked to her for guidance, but fought for my independence and space to make my own way.
I moved away from her (figuratively and literally) slowly over time — after I finished school, moved away and eventually got married.
Then I had my son. When I had him home for a few days I had an ‘aha’ moment. So this is what it takes to be a parent. This is work. This is hard. Wow, my mom must have really loved me. She made parenting look easy. She always had a confidence in her parenting skills and I never doubted her ability to do the job. In reflection, I am in awe of her and what she accomplished. Now it was my turn, which got me thinking will I be as good a mom to my boys as she was to me? It’s motivated me to try my best to live up to the bar she set everyday since.
As a mom, I think about my boys and how they view me. Am I adored by them? If I am, they hide it well. 🙂 Are they resisting me? A little, for sure. Are they starting to move away? Thankfully no. But one thing I know — they love me, and I, with every ounce of my being, love them.
Thank you, Mom, for everything, and Happy Mother’s Day to my mom and all the other moms out there.
I will be taking some time off to enjoy time with family and friends and will be back in June.