Did you know what you wanted your profession to be when you were a kid? When did you figure it out or are you (like me and) still trying to?
My son was sharing a fictional story one of his friends had shared. The main character was Bill Gates, but not like we know him. In this story, there was a war and Bill Gates was ridding the world of bad people and getting paid money to do so. In a time when super heroes, and good guys and bad guys run rampant, these kind of stories don’t shock me like they used to. I asked my son if he knew who Bill Gates was. He said, “Sorta?” with an uplift in tone that indicated he clearly did not. I explained that Bill Gates did make a lot of money, but it wasn’t from getting rid of bad people, it was from inventing (along with many others) the personal computer. He happened to have a passion for learning about computers, and was visionary in how people could use them. I continued that while he had made a lot of money, he had started a foundation that was focused on giving most of his money away to help others through education and healthcare; and that he was so passionate about this work, that he was encouraging other wealthy people to do the same thing (give their money away towards helping others).
My son was curious about a man making so much money, and instead of spending it all or giving it to his children, he would give it away. “Well, you can’t take it with you when you die. And the money would be more than his kids would ever need,” I explained. I decided to explore with both my sons what they were interested in doing when they grew up. My oldest quickly chimed in that he wanted to build a robot–like Iron Man, or Baemax from Big Hero 6, but for real, not pretend. Or maybe he’d create a new Pokémon card. You could see his creative wheels turning. My youngest chimed in. “I want to do construction. Maybe build things. Or maybe paint cars.” I reiterated that they could do whatever they wanted to do when they got older…the only one that would prevent them from doing it was them. I noticed my oldest looked a bit concerned. “But I don’t really know what I want to be when I grow up.” He was clearly upset at knowing for certain what he would be when he grew up, “What am I going to do?” I was not expecting him to feel this pressure to know what he wanted to do. I certainly had some ideas when I was his age, but that was all they were ideas, or fantasies. I reminded both boys that my husband’s and my job is to teach them things, including exposing them to new things and encouraging them to try them so they can know if it’s something that is a passion or interest for them, “Without trying, you’ll never know,and that no one expects you to know what you want to be or do at such a young age,” I finished. That seemed to suffice for my boys and we went on to talk of other things.
Life is precious, and goes by so quickly. What would the world be like if we all followed our passion? Pretty good, right? When you are enthusiastic about something it’s natural to want to share it with others. While not everyone has money to share, everyone has the ability to share what they are passionate about.
How are you helping your child find what they are passionate about? How are you helping them figure out what they want to be when they grow up?
As a parent of two children, I tried to expose them to many different activities so that they could hopefully find something to be passionate about. The real problem is when they lack the skills to turn their passion into a career. It takes more than passion to have a successful career.
Assuming they lacked skills that were not obtainable and couldn’t be learned (want to be tall but are short — something like that)? Success is an interesting term. I used to think of it in terms of wealth, title or prestige, but now think of it more in terms of being true to myself, living and enjoying life and contributing in a way that feels meaningful. I do believe there is something (positive) to pursuing your passion…and if you can get paid for it, even better! But agree, having a passion won’t necessarily = having/getting a title, wealth or prestige.
Yes, however how many people go through life unhappy because what they are passionate about doesn’t pay the bills. They are working at jobs that they hate because parents told them to “follow their dreams” or “there are no limits as to what you can do”.